I ALWAYS DO THIS! I ALWAYS say I’m going on a break, and then come back here. A bit awkward, but there you go.
Well, I was originally going to write a really thought provoking post about the past and getting over it, but I did that yesterday. I completely ran out of inspiration, so THIS is the post de la shit for today. Do NOT enjoy it. GOD my blogging style is screwed up today.
I was just thinking: do you ever get that awful feeling where you feel like you’re neglecting some friends? Not because I have loads – I DON’T – but I have enough that if I spend some time with one, I feel guilty because I want to make sure the others are okay. It’s not my JOB, but they’re my friends and they get me through the hard times.
It’s easy to get swept away in a friendship and forget the old ones you had before. I’m guilty of it, and people I know are too; I can think of so many examples. I bet you’ve done it too at some point, and that’s okay to admit it. I’d rather you DID, because admitting your faults means that you can work on them.
I guess this post was sparked off because I realised I hadn’t dropped a simple ‘Hey, how are you?’ to some friends in a while. It’s funny how, when friendships are left to the side, they just… Disappear, or fade. It’s part of life.
I WANT to fix those friendships, but it’s awful because I don’t have TIME? Friendship, for me, comes above all else and I ‘pride’ myself on being loyal. I want to help so many people, and DAMN, it’s not necessarily a good thing.
If some friends are more distant than they were, that’s okay. If you had an argument, it’s not too late to resolve it – either with them or in your mind. YOU’RE the one in control of YOUR feelings, because for God’s sake, they’re yours.
But you’re not superman, woman or person. It’s so cliché to say this, but you can’t do EVERYTHING. Trust me, I know that; think about it like an elastic band: you stretch it too much and it snaps and breaks. I don’t want your band to break. Don’t stretch yourself to the limits.
I don’t want to turn into someone who ALWAYS does advice things, or whines about their life, so I’m doing both. I relate my advice to things that have happened to me, because I don’t want to yell things at you. I’ve always thought that seems impersonal, because if you’re someone like me, you HAVE to back things up with your own story, but then people won’t – and YOU won’t – understand your reasons for saying things.
I hope it’s okay. Remember, no matter what: it’s YOU who can force your face to smile, to laugh, but it’s people that can help you do that. Then again, you’re the person that can make that step, after months of silence, and say ‘Hey!’.
From Elm 🙂